JESSIE CHANES: ODE TO MOTHERHOOD
Jessie Chanes, or @jessiekass, shares with Cabinett the different sides to being a mother and an influencer nowadays.
Long days, sunsets, temperaturas that invite to take off layers and to enjoy the lightest fabrics. May is already here and with it, Mother’s Day. On the first Sunday of this month we celebrate all the mothers in our lives and everything they’ve done –and still do– for us. Being a mother means loving in the most powerful way and feeling the most intense emotions. The influencer Jessie Chanes (@jessiekass) has dived into motherhood twice and one of her biggest changes has been to discover herself.
“The biggest discovery has been realising that I’ve changed, or rather what motherhood has changed in me for the better”.
JESSIE CHANES: ODE TO MOTHERHOOD
“I don’t achieve half of the things I set for myself. Motherhood is a daily fight to feel that you have that balance”.
“When you get into motherhood you get into totally unknown territory, you don’t know what to expect, what to feel… In that aspect, I’ve especially surprised myself”, she states. “I’ve always been an impatient person and with the kids I’ve developed an amount of patience that sometimes it even surprises me. I’ve realised that I endure more, I know how to redirect everything better, so I think that the biggest discovery has been realising that I’ve changed, or rather what motherhood has changed in me for the better”.
Her two kids, Olivia and Bruno, or as Jessie lovingly calls them missOlivia and mrBruno, her job and her travelling make Jessie’s schedule a complete jugglery. Does she make it in the end? “Honestly I don’t!”, she admits. “I don’t achieve half of the things I set for myself. If I’m with them I feel bad because I’m leaving behind my work and when I focus on work I feel terrible because I let them aside. At the end of the day I think motherhood is a daily fight to feel that you have that balance… but I don’t know if it ever happens!”.
Starting from the premise of logic, both Jessie and her partner Salva, have followed their instinct when it comes to educating their kids. “I was always raised with a lot of freedom of choice, and I try to raise them in that same freedom”, she explains. “Many times I let them make their own decisions, I let them see that when they make bad decisions it has effects, consequences”. With the never-ending amount of information there is nowadays about any topic, it’s hard not to use the Internet, and more especifically social media, to draw ideas, discover new perspectives and learn about every aspect of motherhood, but sometimes the lifestyle that is portrayed in Instagram can pressure you. “When it comes to social media I feel like you have to be the perfect mother, a super worker but also a super mother, and then when you try to show the most perfect you can be, people will say that the perfect mother doesn’t exist and that we only show what’s perfect”, she tells. “So social media has double standards in that way”.
Nonetheless, Jessie’s kids are her biggest gift and what she enjoys the most is the relationship between them. “Since they aren’t far from each other in age, our biggest reward is to watch them together”, she says. “To see how they love each other, how close they are and how they learn from each other”.